Life is too short to feel unhappy with what you do, and when I talk about happiness, I am not referring to feeling euphoric and smiling all day.
The Woman Post | Blanca Mery Sanchez (@soyblancamery)
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I am talking about being connected with the joy of living and feeling calm, balanced, and motivated in the good and bad days that we all have.
It is a matter of rhythm and mentality, the speed with which we are assuming life, the unattainable challenges that we have set ourselves, and the execution anxiety have us against the ropes, but here a question arises and what happens with those who face the same circumstances are flourishing and prospering? Do they have a superpower or some secret that allows them to handle stress before falling into the downward spiral of exhaustion?
If you want to overcome stress, anxiety and not plummet into exhaustion, you need to commit to your well-being and prioritize it every day. You have to renounce being a wonder woman and embrace your humanity, as the opportunity to understand your physical, emotional, or mental vulnerability to the high demands of today's world and seek self-care actions that allow you to regain control of your life.
Studies carried out at the University of Pennsylvania with global leaders and health personnel who, despite their high degree of stress, do not burn out, have shown that the key is the development of emotional intelligence through practices such as which we will see next.
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Improve Your Perspective
Stress is not caused by people, the demand of your boss, or the crisis, but the way you are interpreting each situation you face. When external pressure is added to a series of beliefs of perfectionism, excessive self-demand, and unconditional success, it is the breeding ground for performance anxiety and all those difficult emotions to appear.
Learning to recognize the difference between rumination and productive analysis is key to not becoming chronically worried, learning to practice metacognition (the ability to observe the content of your thoughts), and separating those that empower you from those that block you more strategically in the way you face real-life challenges. To start developing a new mentality I propose three steps:
1. Ask yourself: What is occupying my mind at this moment? Does this thought help me move forward in what I am doing or am I running on the hamster wheel? What is the best action I can take right now?
2. Apply the statements: You can use these or create your own: "It is natural that when faced with a challenge I feel different types of emotions," "This emotion will also pass, I can breathe and return to calm when I decide to do so," "I would prefer to be able to do more in one day, but I am going to accept what I can realistically do in my work time", "I am going to give my best performance in the working day and plan a rest in my free time."
3. Relax: Check what type of activities generate well-being, exercise, meditate, paint, the one that goes the most with your personality. At least dedicate ten minutes each day and you will see how you feel more balanced.
Typical behavior in Neurocoaching is that people expect them to change their emotions to change their behaviors and yet, adjusting your behavior can help you hack your brain and transform the way you feel, start today to create that improved version of yourself.